Amidst all the congratulatory Whatsapp messages and Facebook statuses for Women’s Day take a minute to think, what are WE really celebrating here? By ‘we’ I refer to the women in our country who I feel have NOTHING to celebrate this year.
Rather as a country we should collectively bow down our heads in SHAME! Just marking a day for it isn’t enough. I am tired of living in a country where women are treated as the weaker sex not by sheer virtue of our size but by the years and years of indoctrination!
When will it be okay for me to do as I please, to wear what I want, to go where I want and NOT be worried about all the lecherous eyes on me? Only when all this happens will I feel the need to happily celebrate this day again. Until then I don’t see the need for it.
I am sick and tired of being treated differently just because my gender. While the west has come up with the #HeForShe campaign what is India doing as a country on this pressing matter? Banning movies, fighting over whether a documentary should be shown or not, banning a certain food item and before you know it, THEY MIGHT AS WELL BAN WOMEN AS WELL.
To the fellow women of this country, watching the Nirbhaya documentary made my blood boil. It made me sit up and wonder as to why hasn’t anything changed still. Why is that a rape victim has to live with the stigma all her life and the men who has done this to her are guilt free? It’s equally appalling to see his reasoning in the video and that of the defending lawyer who quite frankly shouldn’t be allowed to practice at all.
It’s NOT the girl’s fault ever, then why treat her like this? I request all the women of the country to be the change they want to see. To speak up and take a stand and not be okay with the secondary status.
And to the men, NO, I am not asking the men of the country to become knight and shining armours rather I am just them to become responsible fathers, brothers, husbands and sons to the women of the country. This is not only the women’s fight it is also your fight. For men of quality always respect women’s equality. Cause in the end always remember, it was a women who brought you into this world so you have no right to disrespect her in any way.
Over the years I have heard various definitions that try and explain what make us truly Indian. However,out of the long list of attributes my personal favourite reason that brings us all together is that we as Indians love to bargain. Be it be, in malls or the streets we never fail to miss a chance to haggle. Ironically, we excel in it too and rather no one can beat us in it. In fact as Indians we love the word ‘free’ and ‘discount’.
As Indians we can bargain in every transaction and without an ounce of guilt, we can shamelessly ask for discounts. From cab fares to restaurant bills, from vegetable shopping to investing in property, we can bargain everywhere.
Some of the common instances where as Indians we have asked for discounts or use our negotiation skills to get something free:
1. While buying vegetables we ask for free dhaniya and mirchi.
2. When it comes to street shopping for clothes we bluntly ask for a 70% off, since paying beyond it just makes the clothes too ‘over priced’.
3. Haggling with auto wala bhaiya for petty amounts and telling him to give a discount.
4. We don’t even start negotiating until the salesman in a shoe of grocery shop has scratched through the initial price and lowered it at least twice.
5. Once the price has been cut 25-30%, we ask the salesman that we are going to buy two items. This gets us another 5% off. Then later we add a very expensive item — one which we do not intend to buy. But, we use it as a ploy to get further discounts.
6. We ask for free pani after having pani puri and once finished we also then ask for a free meethi mathi.
7. Even if we are going to buy a single pen we will look through a lot of samples and make the salesman sweat profusely before we finally make our first offer.
8. The classic case of bargain is seen when we choose to walk out of shop after inquiring everything about a product, price, making only for the shopkeeper to call us back and offer a discounted price.
9. And finally the golden rule followed by us while shopping is that ‘never to agree to the price said by the salesman’.
Some people think that bargaining is awkward but what they fail to see is that negotiations can be so valuable and it helps save a lot. And not to forget that no matter what price you pay — if the sales guy is smiling when you leave guess who won… But more often than not we enjoy this cycle alot!