Open Letter To The Women In India

Amidst all the congratulatory Whatsapp messages and Facebook statuses for Women’s Day take a minute to think, what are WE really celebrating here? By ‘we’ I refer to the women in our country who I feel have NOTHING to celebrate this year.BrokenChains

Rather as a country we should collectively bow down our heads in SHAME! Just marking a day for it isn’t enough. I am tired of living in a country where women are treated as the weaker sex not by sheer virtue of our size but by the years and years of indoctrination!

When will it be okay for me to do as I please, to wear what I want, to go where I want and NOT be worried about all the lecherous eyes on me? Only when all this happens will I feel the need to happily celebrate this day again. Until then I don’t see the need for it.

I am sick and tired of being treated differently just because my gender. While the west has come up with the #HeForShe campaign what is India doing as a country on this pressing matter? Banning movies, fighting over whether a documentary should be shown or not, banning a certain food item and before you know it, THEY MIGHT AS WELL BAN WOMEN AS WELL.

To the fellow women of this country, watching the Nirbhaya documentary made my blood boil. It made me sit up and wonder as to why hasn’t anything changed still. Why is that a rape victim has to live with the stigma all her life and the men who has done this to her are guilt free? It’s equally appalling to see his reasoning in the video and that of the defending lawyer who quite frankly shouldn’t be allowed to practice at all.

It’s NOT the girl’s fault ever, then why treat her like this? I request all the women of the country to be the change they want to see. To speak up and take a stand and not be okay with the secondary status.

And to the men, NO, I am not asking the men of the country to become knight and shining armours rather I am just them to become responsible fathers, brothers, husbands and sons to the women of the country. This is not only the women’s fight it is also your fight. For men of quality always respect women’s equality. Cause in the end always remember, it was a women who brought you into this world so you have no right to disrespect her in any way.

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8 Things Women Hate About Men!

“Men will be men” is an excuse that men all over the world use to cover their ass. Yet still that doesn’t give them a pass to do what they want. Women in general have a long list of annoying habits that men have. And if by chance you ask them to compile it you will have an unending list of things that they hate and you’d eventually have one extensive collection of cons.

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Here are top 8 things that men do that we as women collectively hate and men often than not, don’t even realize they do them.

1. Adjusting their privates
Yes, there I said it!! Now it isn’t that you have just grown out of after puberty. Men have a lot of fascination with what lurks beneath and they can spend a lot of time down there to ‘sort the boys out.’ But please, even if it may just be for the purposes of comfort but it is something that women time and time again have complained about. STOP DOIING it in public, it isn’t the most hygienic practice!!

2. Poor hygiene
Now let me just spell it out, this a BIG no no. Men, please for the love of god, wear nice cologne and deodorant 24/7. Cologne is in no way a replacement for soap and water. A good scent is a natural aphrodisiac and we LOVE it. And if you didn’t know, it is one of the first things a woman notices in a man. So invest on the perfect cologne.

3. Never taking directions
What is with men when they feel that they are the best drivers in the world? It’s like they have an in built GPS system and they know directions to everywhere. So, chill and understand that it’s ok to take directions sometimes! Trust me, it’s better than getting lost or being late!!

4. Forgetting
“Men are bad with dates and also at remembering just about anything in general” but WHY? Women absolutely loathe it when you forget. Although we may forgive you for the occasional forgotten detail, but it is not that okay when you make it a habit. But forgetting something important, like dinner plans, or worse, an anniversary or birthday is a disaster. Is just a big no!! Put a reminder in the phone on email anywhere but just try!!

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5. Ogling
Let me just clear this once and for all. Women absolutely DESPISE catching their men ogling other women. It’s not that women don’t ogle, we do too, but there is a certain level of subtlety involved. Try at least be more discreet about it.

6. Cockiness
Women in general do not want anything to do with a cocky guy. Why? Because cocky guys are the number one cheaters and this is an established fact. Women know that cocky guys are secretly insecure as people so they feel the need to overcompensate. Try and be let’s just be real, that should work!

7. Selective hearing
We know that men are completely incapable of multitasking and even scientists have demonstrated the same. So pretending to watch a program while your wife or girlfriend is attempting to initiate a conversation will never end well. Because in this scenario, the TV usually wins. And pretending to listen to her or selectively listening to what she is saying is more annoying to women than just not listening at all.

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8. Talking about your ex
Nothing can be a bigger put off that constantly taking about your ex. Talking about the ex is a “NO GO” area. Never ever do it. Mentioning your ex is a lose-lose situation. If a by chance this topic comes up try and not get into the details. It will be good for you only in the long run, trust me.

Things That Only Men Can Do

I envy the life of men sometimes. Uncomplicated by the dictates of the biological clock every month, their life is more of a cake walk. And yes it would be interesting to walk in a man’s shoes, literally.

My initial reactions to the bizarre idea brought a rather big smirk to my best friend who took this opportunity to state that like Anil Kapoor got a chance to be the C.M. for a day in the movie, she would also want to become a man for a day?
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According to Biblical legends, Adam is the reason why Eve was created in the first place. In a way men did everything first and women followed the way. Yet they have been bearing the brunt for just being ‘men’ all these years. Come to think of it, they are many things that only men can do with ease.
Each time when I went to get waxing done and I think about how life is so very simple for men at least in this aspect. Men can wear chest, underarm, leg, ear, and nose hair as proudly and unapologetically as they like.
And not only this, they can also go topless whenever they please. Whether it is walking down the street or in the gym, men can get topless at the drop of a hat! On the other hand imagine a woman walking topless down the street and if you somehow manage to remove your clothes at the shot, be rest assured that you are being clicked by some perverts.
Full bladder and you want to pee, but the next washroom is two kilometers away? All that a men need to do is to step outside and pee behind a dumpster. Find some cover, unzip and go.
All the women are going to hate for this one but as far as studies go, men can hold drinks better than women. Men produce an enzyme which breaks down alcohol. So they can drink more alcohol and still enjoy more rounds while still appear sober in comparison to a

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Talking about gender equality and putting it in practice is another thing all together. All these things made me understand that they are some things that only men can do. And even though the grass is always greener on the other side I would still prefer to be a woman than a man!